Fatherless… Fatherless…

He created the father

By Derrick Johnson


With every generation, there seems to be less and less active fathers in our society. Men are making babies but are not staying around to father them. Oftentimes children who grow up without a father are more likely to become rebellious and unruly. The lack of fathers in our society can create a generation of wayward children, which can affect future generations.

On several occasions, I’ve had the opportunity to volunteer with innerfaith prison ministry. As a volunteer I would attend their monthly prison crusades. While on the crusades, I would have an opportunity to minister to a number of inmates. During our discussion I would ask about the relationship with their parents. Most of them said they had a loving mother that did all she could. However, when it came to their fathers, most said they grew up without a father, and resented their fathers for it.

God understands the necessity of the father’s role in a family. He created the father to affirm their children, and mothers to nurture them. When a father affirms a child, they feel loved and important. When the father is absent or has not affirmed the child, the child oftentimes goes looking for someone else to affirm them. In some cases, the child ends up finding affirmation from negative influences such as gangs or cliques, which can lead to destructive behavior.

It’s always been the enemy’s plan to attack the father since the father is the anchor of the family. Earthly fathers are supposed to be a reflection of our heavenly Father, so it’s very important that fathers love their children. Psalm 103:13 (NIV) says, “As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear Him.”If a child does not feel loved by their earthly father, they will not feel loved by their heavenly Father.

Children also require structure and discipline. Ephesians 6:4 (ESV) says, “Fathers do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”When a father chooses to discipline his children, it shows that he loves and cares for them. Hebrews 12:6 (NLT) says, “For the Lord disciplines those He loves, and He punishes each one He accepts as His child.” God’s Word is a perfect outline on how we should live and raise our children. For the bible says if you train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

Derrick and Sarah are married with three beautiful daughters. They serve as leaders at Lighthouse Family Church and have a desire to see broken people liberated by the truth of God’s Word.

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