By Jenny Morgan
According to the CDC, over 6 million women struggle with infertility issues. For these women, Mother’s Day can be an emotional roller coaster. I had certainly gained my own collection of hurts and scars in my seven–year battle to conceive! Well intended family and church members asking, “When are you gonna have a baby?” sometimes felt like they were punching me in the gut. And every year as we honored mothers in the church on their special day, people would look at me with pity and say something like, “one day” or “maybe next year.” Honestly, I dreaded Mother’s Day.
But I also had a different kind of deep encouragement in those years. God had opened so many doors for me to be, in many ways, a mother to the motherless. To love children and young adults as an affirming voice to them. People who needed a mother’s voice in their lives. Those same people, each for a season, would open themselves up to me. Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of watching so many of them heal and bloom in their individual walks with God. And many of them would give me gifts or cards on Mother’s Day, some even calling me “mom” on the notes. It was like a healing balm on my heart.
Before I was even married and trying to conceive, there were many mother figures that surrounded me. They helped me to grow and mature in my walk with God, they helped me to let go of doubts and self struggles, they discipled me in so many practical ways. I do not know where I’d be today without that early support system! I understood their importance and relevance in my life, so I knew I needed to model that in ministry.
Scripture tells us in 2 Corinthians 5:18-19 that we have all been given a ministry and a message of reconciliation: “All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation.” And in Romans 8:15, we read, “For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!”
These things tell me that, as believers, we have every ability to usher others into a loving relationship with God through Jesus Christ. There are people here now who need the love of the Father. And He has even made a way so through us that they can receive a father’s love through a mother’s voice!
If you have read our articles in the past, you may know our testimony. Three years ago, we adopted a precious baby girl. And you may or may not know that Eliot and I are due to have our first natural born child in July. I am so grateful to God for these things, but I understand that everyone will not share the same story.
However, if I can encourage anyone who struggles on Mother’s Day because of the longing in your heart to be a mother, let me ask you to do this: open up your heart to the hurting and broken around you. Ask God to show you those who feel rejected, unlovable, and alone. I promise, watching them flourish and grow through your relationship will cause your heart to be full, and some of them will even cause your mother’s heart to burst with pride!
Always remember, no matter what your circumstances are, God IS faithful! He loves you, you are worthy, and you are called to love others back to Him.
Jenny Morgan is a wife and proud adoptive mother also expecting her second blessing, in the Lafayette area.